April 11, 2022
The rate of domestic violence in Nigeria has reached an alarming rate. Despite calls to end domestic violence in homes, it seems this vice is not likely to end anytime soon. In many cases of domestic violence, women are often the victims. On this note, a United Nations study in 2019 reported that 1 … Continue reading Domestic Violence: What Must Stakeholders Do?
July 17, 2021
Divorce is nasty. No one wants to go through all the hurdles of being wed to a partner only to end the marriage in a divorce. According to Vanguardngr, the rate of divorce in Nigeria has risen from 0.2% in 2016 to 14% in 2019. Read more about How-To There might be numerous reasons … Continue reading How To Explain Divorce To Children
February 11, 2019
The history of dowry goes way back in time. Scriptural texts from African, Asian and European cultures show evidence that the union between a man and a woman is usually marked by an exchange of either money or other items of value. But as modernity marches on and civilization slowly advance on us, more people … Continue reading Dowry: How Important Is It?
December 3, 2018
Is Marriage Overrated? Responses always vary to this question. I believe this is largely because a great marriage is one of the BEST things that can happen to a person, and a bad marriage is one of the WORST things that can happen to a person. It makes sense, then, that some decide not to … Continue reading Marriage: Taking Nothing For Granted
September 26, 2018
As annoying as this truth is, being with one person forever will get boring at some point. At several points, in fact. The excitement you experienced when your love was brand new and you couldn’t get enough of each other, will not sustain itself. Nobody remains on that high forever, unless they fan the flame. … Continue reading Three Questions to Ask When You’re Bored in Your Marriage
April 30, 2018
I attended a women’s retreat recently, and one of the workshops was about what to do when you find yourself in an unfulfilling marriage. Several helpful tips and solutions were proffered, but nobody said anything about leaving until one woman asked in frustration, “When will a woman ever be told to just leave?” At that … Continue reading Unhappily Married: Why Won’t She Just Leave?
January 8, 2018
During the honeymoon stage of marriage, everyone wants to pretend money issues would not create a rift, so consulting with a financial advisor takes the back burner. Going through a major life change should be one of the major motivation to take your finances a little more serious. Perhaps, one of the most exciting things about being a newlywed is thinking … Continue reading Financial Checklist For Newly Married Couple
December 22, 2017
Inspired by the Skinny Girl in Transit Season 4 finale, many Nigerian women are currently praying, each declaring that their own Mide will find them in 2018. Love is too sweet! Are you looking forward to getting married next year? Work with your own resources and let everything that comes from others be nice, welcome … Continue reading 7 Things to Keep in Mind If You’re Planning a 2018 Wedding
September 30, 2017
Lisa (not real name), who has been married for only 6 months just found out that her husband has been a porn and masturbation addict for 15 years. She had always wondered why it was difficult for him to reach orgasm when they had sex. He would go on and on for two hours non-stop … Continue reading 7 Ways to Handle Porn and Masturbation Addiction in your Spouse
September 18, 2017
There is nothing more vexatious than nagging. According to Wikipedia, it is a form of persistent persuasion that is more repetitive than aggressive. It is the most common complaint in a relationship. It is an ultimate relationship killer. Effects of Nagging in a Relationship: Nagging cause your partner to ignore you: Yes, you heard right. … Continue reading 5 Effects of Nagging In A Relationship
July 6, 2017
I’ve heard people say that the reception is their favourite part of a wedding, so I know I’m somewhat strange. Church is my favourite part. Where most people can skip the church part and go straight to the reception, I’d rather be at church and skip the reception if I had to choose. I find … Continue reading About to Wed: 5 Affirmations for Brides and Grooms
May 7, 2017
When I was growing up, “lists” were a must in Christian circles, and every serious believer looking to date and marry, had one. Even when we learnt how to leave out the less important things and focus on the major issues, we still ended up with lists that were quite robust. While everyone does need … Continue reading Interesting Conversations Christian Couples Should Have Before Engagement
May 6, 2017
If there’s anything I know to be true, it’s this: comparing your marriage to someone else’s is foolish. I remember one day 10 years ago when I saw a couple I knew looking and acting sweet as usual, in their matching t-shirts and sneakers, and whispered a prayer to God about wanting my future marriage … Continue reading Should You Compare Your Marriage?
March 10, 2017
Does a happy marriage mean being inseparable? Elizabeth Taylor, who married Richard Burton in 1964, divorced him 10 years later, and married him again in 1975 before they divorced for good less than a year later, once described their marriage as “being in each other’s pockets.” That a couple seems to be perpetually joined at … Continue reading Is Your Togetherness Too Total?
January 27, 2017
We’re all still basking in the euphoria of the love, friendship and honour we witnessed between Barack and Michelle Obama as they spent their final days in office, and there was much “goals-ing” all over social media. Many have also wondered, secretly if not openly, what wives who live happy, fulfilled lives even as they … Continue reading 7 Things Great Wives Do Differently
January 17, 2017
It has come to my notice that single people who intend to get married have been hearing “marriage is work” for ages and yet they’re not exactly sure what the “work” is. And they’re sick of it. At first I was surprised because I assumed the “work” in marriage was common knowledge, and also because … Continue reading What Do People Mean When They Say Marriage is Work?
January 17, 2017
For a long time, whenever I thought about how much my husband and I used to play together, it was usually along the lines of lamenting that we didn’t play anymore. Then, late last year, I decided we were better off actually doing something about it. First step, find the Ludo board and clean it. … Continue reading One Much Overlooked Ingredient Every Marriage Needs
January 12, 2017
I recently learnt that a great marriage is really not possible for lazy people. As someone who identifies as “lazy”, this understandably gave me cause for concern. As 2016 came to an end and I started laying out my goals for 2017, I wondered how I would find the energy required to move my marriage … Continue reading One Simple Tip for an Incredibly Fulfilling Marriage in 2017
December 24, 2016
I never knew that loving my husband would be so expensive. I wish gifts would do the job, so I could just buy them, big and small. I wish physical touch could mean much to him, so I could give him more hugs and kisses and caresses than he’d know what to do with. I … Continue reading Why I’m Learning to Speak The Language of Quality Time
December 13, 2016
Settling into married life is hard, not only because you and your husband are just getting used to living and building a life together, but also because you married his family when you married him. Here are 5 tips that can make your transition easier: 1. Be genuinely interested in getting to know your in-laws. … Continue reading 5 Tips for Getting Along With Your New In-Laws
December 3, 2016
Recession is not just a word. Every day, people are losing their jobs and it’s not a function of their performance. Many companies just can’t afford to keep people on. Being there for a fired husband is not a walk in the park. Men are expected to and socialized to see themselves as providers, and … Continue reading 5 Ways to Help If Your Husband Gets Laid Off
November 15, 2016
Many of us are good at paying lip service to the fact that marriage is a union of two different people who are sometimes from different backgrounds. However, when it comes down to applying that knowledge in daily life, we often do a poor job of it. We come into marriage with expectations of spousal … Continue reading One Reason Why Marriage Can Suck in the Early Years
November 8, 2016
When you love your husband or wife, you wouldn’t want to see them overburdened or depleted just to keep your lives going. Instead, you want to make sure that each of you is carrying a fair share of the workload that your life together presents. There are homes where both partners contribute financially and yet … Continue reading Is What You’re Doing Marriage or Slavery?
November 1, 2016
Don’t be fooled; there is nothing in the feminine nature to suggest that she is less prone to temptation than you are. A partner whose needs are not being met or who has been starved of affection and attention is vulnerable, male or female. Of course, we all have self-control; the point is, not only husbands … Continue reading 6 Ways to Keep Your Wife Hooked on You
October 18, 2016
Over the weekend, I was discussing with a group of Christian wives about the chief goal of “wifehood” and “husbandhood” and we worked our way through to the conclusion that the main role and duty of a spouse is to help the other achieve their purpose, and that how each couple interprets this is up … Continue reading Do You Remember Why You Got Married?
September 23, 2016
The popular saying, “no romance without finance”, sometimes gives the impression that a lack of money is what causes financial issues in marriage. After all, we know that marrying a dreamer who enjoys talking big without corresponding action, or who counts his chicks before they are hatched, is setting oneself up for a marriage fraught … Continue reading Why Money Causes So Much Friction in Marriage