10 Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married
Getting married is indeed a beautiful thing. It’s the coming together of two different people, now lovers and friends, to spend the rest of their lives together. It can be so exciting when getting married and most often couples in this state of excitement fail to discuss certain important issues before getting married. Read […]
Love Section: Fighting In A Relationship – How To Do It Right
Healthy as it may seem, it simply doesn’t feel right fighting in a relationship. Even worse, it can be very unhealthy and utterly destructive in the long-run. More often than not, it’s our very own characters that create issues in relationships. Discover the sort of battles couples encounter, and figure out just how to avoid […]
5 Mistakes to Avoid After a Breakup
Breakups can be awful. I remember thinking sometime last year that it was good to be married and finally free from the trauma and torture that is breaking up after dating someone you truly love (a divorce is a different animal) and thought you would share forever with. You meet someone, you’re sure he or […]
7 Harmful Habits Your Relationship Doesn’t Need
Whether you’re dating, engaged or married, there are certain behaviours and habits that are counterproductive to a healthy relationship. Men and women who know the value of a mutually fulfilling and satisfying relationship are careful to avoid practices that threaten their love, and they take deliberate steps to break those habits where they have already […]
What Do People Mean When They Say Marriage is Work?
It has come to my notice that single people who intend to get married have been hearing “marriage is work” for ages and yet they’re not exactly sure what the “work” is. And they’re sick of it. At first I was surprised because I assumed the “work” in marriage was common knowledge, and also because […]
Why I’m Learning to Speak The Language of Quality Time
I never knew that loving my husband would be so expensive. I wish gifts would do the job, so I could just buy them, big and small. I wish physical touch could mean much to him, so I could give him more hugs and kisses and caresses than he’d know what to do with. I […]
Will You Wait Till The Water Runs Dry?
“We don’t even talk anymore…” So begins one of my favourite Boys II Men songs, ‘Water Runs Dry’. When a marriage is headed downhill, talking is usually the next to die after kissing. You just don’t do it anymore. Talking is the major thing we do when we first start getting to know each other. […]
5 Success Seeds You Can Sow Daily for Your Relationship
Relationship success, like success in other areas of life, is an aggregate of great choices and actions every day. Not many people fall in love and grow in love because of one big thing or the other that their partner did. It’s usually the little things done consistently over time, both sentimental and practical. What […]
How to Marry Scum
Not a day passes without me seeing “men are scum” on Twitter, and for every person who posts it as a joke, there’s someone who clearly means it. It used to bother me a lot, mainly for two reasons; I love men, and I am averse to generalisations. I wondered if “men are scum” meant […]
Can You Make Someone Love You?
When Chuks met Isio, he knew he wanted to marry her. Both Christians in their 30s, they had been talking online for a while, and although they enjoyed the conversations, they both wondered what meeting face to face would be like, and they looked forward to his return to Nigeria so they could find out. […]
Three Things People Consider Before Choosing a Life Partner
Human beings are social animals and in most cultures, it is considered normal to choose a life partner and settle down to raise a family. The decision is usually taken when both partners become of age and are mature enough to handle a family. However, just as people get married every day, so do others […]
Is What You’re Doing Marriage or Slavery?
When you love your husband or wife, you wouldn’t want to see them overburdened or depleted just to keep your lives going. Instead, you want to make sure that each of you is carrying a fair share of the workload that your life together presents. There are homes where both partners contribute financially and yet […]
What Does Working at Your Relationship Even Mean?
Nearly everyone who has ever paid attention to relationships and marriage has heard that they require “work”. If you want your relationship to remain strong, you need to “work” at it. If you’re like me, the sound of that is discouraging. I already have work and I don’t need more. Shouldn’t relationships be fun? Yes, […]
Misconceptions about the Other Half
The wedding jitters, delicate fitting into that breathtaking dress, exchange of heartfelt vows and the long-awaited exit from singlehood into holy wedlock is finally over and the natural perception of everlasting marital bliss, instant bonding with the mother-in-law and never having to worry about making babies, all seem believable. Your spouse or better said, husband, […]
6 Mistakes Ladies Make in New Relationships
AT times, all in the name of making our new relationship work, we make some moves which we feel would help, but these are mistakes which gradually crush the relationship. There are some basic errors we make in our relationship and though we might not see them as a big deal, they go a long way […]
For Married Men Only
Respect. Men, to gain the respect of your wives, you’ve got to give it first. Frankly, your wife’s point of view matters, otherwise you shouldn’t even be married. If you are going to enjoy being married – or at least, stay married – your critical success factor will be something I have coined, The Feeling […]