Being in a
relationship is for the prepared. It’s for those who have a sense of what they want out of it and are prepared in all ramifications with all that comes with it. They understand what they are getting into. I think that relationship is not for everyone.
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Although, everyone deserves to be in love and be loved, being in a relationship is a different ball game altogether. Due to a lack of life skills, many people regret their relationships, as they ended in conflict. In this article, we shall see the top six life skills that we need to have before venturing into a relationship.
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Have A Sense Of Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is knowing who you are, and what you want. It is knowing your likes, your dislikes, your values, your strengths and your weaknesses. It is understanding what you can compromise and what you can’t. It is knowing what you want from life, and what your visions, passions, aspirations and goals are.
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Identify And Overcome Your Weaknesses
If you’re a bitter single, you will also be a bitter partner. That’s the truth. Before going into a relationship, identify apparent weaknesses such as jealousy, anger, laziness, procrastination, low self-esteem, pride, and other unhealthy
habits like substance abuse, promiscuity and alcoholism. If you haven’t addressed these weaknesses, you’re not fit for a relationship.
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Be Yourself!
After understanding who you’re, being yourself is cherishing who you’re and appreciating your physical, psychological, emotional and cultural being. Being yourself unapologetically is the beginning of high self-esteem and self-worth. Love yourself and express yourself without apology. Be proud of your growth, your job, your career, your skin colour, your tribe, your race, your language, your height, and everything that makes you, you. Have a sense of carriage, treat yourself with dignity and respect. See yourself as worthy of respect and love.
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Have Good Financial Management Skills
Having a good sense of financial management is knowing how much you earn and living within your means, alongside having a good saving culture. Your ability to control your spending and avoid impulse buying is a prerequisite for a relationship. If you have a poor sense of financial management, you might be a victim of impulse spending in a bid to please your partner. Having a good sense of financial management can help you plan your dates properly and save you and your partner from poverty in the long run. This is why you must also look out for a financially prudent person when choosing a partner.
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Discover Your Purpose And Make It A Priority
Going into a relationship without a sense of direction and life mission can be catastrophic. First, you will have no sense of value in that relationship. Secondly, you will contribute nothing meaningful to the life of your partner. Thirdly, you might be a source of discouragement to the progress of your partner, which can lead to frustration and disappointment. But when you enter into a relationship with a sense of purpose, a passion to pursue, and a mission to achieve, you earn the respect of your partner and both of your growth are mutually exclusive. Furthermore, ensure that your purpose is a priority, and never let down your dreams and aspirations because of the “we” factor in the relationship.
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Check Your Baggage
This simply means knowing what you’re holding on to. It could be your past regrets, traumas, betrayals and disappointments. It’s not healthy to venture into a relationship with past pains, especially if you had been in a relationship before. Going into a new relationship with an old scar visibly entrenched in your mind can be disastrous. It is advisable to heal from your past, gain mental and psychological balance before getting into a new relationship.
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This article was first published on 10th November 2021
nnaemeka-emmanuel
Nnaemeka is an academic scholar with a degree in History and International Studies from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka. He is also a creative writer, content creator, storyteller, and social analyst.
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