3 Ways You’re Starving Your Marriage
Do you feel like there’s more to married life than what you’re currently experiencing? Are you stuck in a rut and wondering how to get out? Before you start thinking of sex tips and tricks to spice things up, remember that it’s not sex that makes your relationship great. The quality of your relationship determines […]
Unhappily Married: Why Won’t She Just Leave?
I attended a women’s retreat recently, and one of the workshops was about what to do when you find yourself in an unfulfilling marriage. Several helpful tips and solutions were proffered, but nobody said anything about leaving until one woman asked in frustration, “When will a woman ever be told to just leave?” At that […]
Naija Voice: This Marriage of a Thing Dey Fear You?
E suppose fear you o. The thing risky no be small. I remember one time wey dem ask one oyibo pikin who e go marry. E say e go marry im mama. Dem tell am say no o, person no fit marry im own mama o. The boy come say okay, e go marry im […]
I’m Too Lazy to Have a Fantastic Marriage
Yes, I’m too lazy. I don’t have the energy and this is why my marriage is “good”. Sure, there are people with great marriages but those ones have two heads, you just can’t see the other one with your physical eyes. Someone once likened a great marriage to ducks swimming, smooth and effortless on top […]
Personal Finance: 7 Things We Know We Should Be Doing, But Aren’t
We know how in marriage, life and laziness get in the way of applying the knowledge that we have. Interestingly, the same thing happens when it comes to personal finance; we acquire tons of knowledge but how much of it do we apply? Here are a few personal finance basics, few people take their time […]
Where Do Busybodies Really Come From?
Children, especially when they are very young, don’t understand boundaries. They feel free to ask any and every question that comes to mind, and to give their opinion on whatever subject, regardless of who is involved. It is in the process of training a child that boundaries are taught. Thus, the child learns that it […]
Marriage: 10 Things We Know We Should Be Doing, But Aren’t
What you know may not matter much, if you aren’t applying it. You might as well, not have that knowledge at all. When it comes to marriage, there are things we know we should do, but life and laziness get in the way: Date night: Experts and counsellors have nearly gone hoarse, emphasizing how helpful […]
The Ibibio Culture
In Nigeria, we are so conversant with the Yoruba, Igbo and Hausa culture, that we often forget the hundreds of other minority ethnic groups that make up this great country. one of such cultures is the Ibibio tribe. The Ibibio people are located in the southeastern part of Nigeria and are regarded as the most […]
7 Ways to Handle Porn and Masturbation Addiction in your Spouse
Lisa (not real name), who has been married for only 6 months just found out that her husband has been a porn and masturbation addict for 15 years. She had always wondered why it was difficult for him to reach orgasm when they had sex. He would go on and on for two hours non-stop […]
Naija Voice: Na by Force to Marry?
Which day here, me and my mama dey watch Nigerian film for house, and she come ask one question wey don dey wonder me tay. We don watch about 3 films wey concern marriage wahala, naim she turn look me: “Na wa o, but why two people go marry if dem no love each other?” […]
4 Reasons We Get Hurt
While I don’t believe anyone would deliberately hurt you, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t. This list though does not include folks close to you just by proximity e.g. some relatives, colleagues, associates at the office… and what not. These people are close to you by reason of their position, not necessarily because of […]
How to Enjoy Your Relationship Despite Lagos Traffic
It’s Friday night and of course you wouldn’t spend it at home. What to do? It’s just 7pm, the night is early. So you call your girlfriend. ‘Care for a date?’ You ask. ‘Where?’ she asks. ‘I was thinking the movies.’ She squeals and gets off the phone to get dressed. You make a detour […]
Let’s Talk About Marital Sex
Can we talk about how men always want their wives to be in the mood for sex whenever they want it without any effort on their part? Please don’t say it’s because our mothers, the traditional African mothers, did it and so it’s a woman’s duty. Or threaten to have sex outside your marriage, or […]
Verbal Abuse: When There Are No Visible Scars
When Lois accepted Nduka’s marriage proposal, she had no idea she would be anything but blissfully happy with him. After all, he had wanted her in his life so badly, expressing his desire to date and marry her several times over the years since they first met. From their first meeting at a school alumni […]
Interesting Conversations Christian Couples Should Have Before Engagement
When I was growing up, “lists” were a must in Christian circles, and every serious believer looking to date and marry, had one. Even when we learnt how to leave out the less important things and focus on the major issues, we still ended up with lists that were quite robust. While everyone does need […]
Should You Compare Your Marriage?
If there’s anything I know to be true, it’s this: comparing your marriage to someone else’s is foolish. I remember one day 10 years ago when I saw a couple I knew looking and acting sweet as usual, in their matching t-shirts and sneakers, and whispered a prayer to God about wanting my future marriage […]