Why Do Some Women Marry Without Physical Attraction?
Once upon a time, I couldn’t understand this at all. If you’re going into a marriage – a union where your spouse is naturally looking forward to an active, fulfilling AND exclusive sex life – does it not make sense to marry someone you’re physically attracted to? And even if you are willing to live […]
Is Your Togetherness Too Total?
Does a happy marriage mean being inseparable? Elizabeth Taylor, who married Richard Burton in 1964, divorced him 10 years later, and married him again in 1975 before they divorced for good less than a year later, once described their marriage as “being in each other’s pockets.” That a couple seems to be perpetually joined at […]
7 Things Great Wives Do Differently
We’re all still basking in the euphoria of the love, friendship and honour we witnessed between Barack and Michelle Obama as they spent their final days in office, and there was much “goals-ing” all over social media. Many have also wondered, secretly if not openly, what wives who live happy, fulfilled lives even as they […]
5 Things Couples Can Do For Their Finances This Year
“Please how are you guys coping?” has been a common question amongst close friends since Nigeria went into recession. While a lot has been said about why money causes so much friction in marriage, embracing frugality, and fixing your finances in 2017, couples can achieve more working as a team. Here are 5 moves that […]
What Do People Mean When They Say Marriage is Work?
It has come to my notice that single people who intend to get married have been hearing “marriage is work” for ages and yet they’re not exactly sure what the “work” is. And they’re sick of it. At first I was surprised because I assumed the “work” in marriage was common knowledge, and also because […]
One Much Overlooked Ingredient Every Marriage Needs
For a long time, whenever I thought about how much my husband and I used to play together, it was usually along the lines of lamenting that we didn’t play anymore. Then, late last year, I decided we were better off actually doing something about it. First step, find the Ludo board and clean it. […]
One Simple Tip for an Incredibly Fulfilling Marriage in 2017
I recently learnt that a great marriage is really not possible for lazy people. As someone who identifies as “lazy”, this understandably gave me cause for concern. As 2016 came to an end and I started laying out my goals for 2017, I wondered how I would find the energy required to move my marriage […]
Why I’m Learning to Speak The Language of Quality Time
I never knew that loving my husband would be so expensive. I wish gifts would do the job, so I could just buy them, big and small. I wish physical touch could mean much to him, so I could give him more hugs and kisses and caresses than he’d know what to do with. I […]
Will You Wait Till The Water Runs Dry?
“We don’t even talk anymore…” So begins one of my favourite Boys II Men songs, ‘Water Runs Dry’. When a marriage is headed downhill, talking is usually the next to die after kissing. You just don’t do it anymore. Talking is the major thing we do when we first start getting to know each other. […]
What You Should Remember When Pressured to Just Marry
I recently had reason to be ashamed of myself. Very ashamed, in fact. You know that place as a single woman where everyone is wondering why you’re smart and pretty and hardworking and altogether lovely, and yet you’re not married. There’s pressure from within and without. From your mum and her sisters, to your pastor […]
Must a Woman Take Her Husband’s Surname?
Reading Hillary Clinton’s biography, A Woman in Charge by Carl Bernstein, I was astounded by the fuss Americans made over Hillary’s decision to keep using her maiden name, instead of taking on her husband’s surname. Her remaining Hillary Rodham not only caused her mother-in-law great distress, it actually affected her husband during his gubernatorial campaign. […]
5 Tips for Getting Along With Your New In-Laws
Settling into married life is hard, not only because you and your husband are just getting used to living and building a life together, but also because you married his family when you married him. Here are 5 tips that can make your transition easier: 1. Be genuinely interested in getting to know your in-laws. […]
5 Success Seeds You Can Sow Daily for Your Relationship
Relationship success, like success in other areas of life, is an aggregate of great choices and actions every day. Not many people fall in love and grow in love because of one big thing or the other that their partner did. It’s usually the little things done consistently over time, both sentimental and practical. What […]
5 Ways to Help If Your Husband Gets Laid Off
Recession is not just a word. Every day, people are losing their jobs and it’s not a function of their performance. Many companies just can’t afford to keep people on. Being there for a fired husband is not a walk in the park. Men are expected to and socialized to see themselves as providers, and […]
About Maturity and Everything Else That Fits Into a Box of Matches
The word, maturity, seems to be the most dignifying word used by members of the prestigious cult of adulthood. Sometimes, it is used as though it is a prize that all adult humans should aspire to. They will not be able to illustrate anything effectively unless they fling that word at you. Sometimes, they do […]
One Reason Why Marriage Can Suck in the Early Years
Many of us are good at paying lip service to the fact that marriage is a union of two different people who are sometimes from different backgrounds. However, when it comes down to applying that knowledge in daily life, we often do a poor job of it. We come into marriage with expectations of spousal […]