Archives Tag: Marriage
Verbal Abuse: When There Are No Visible Scars
April 19, 2022
When Lois accepted Nduka’s marriage proposal, she had no idea she would be anything but blissfully happy with him. After all, he had wanted her in his life so badly, expressing his desire to date and marry her several times over the years since they first met. From their first meeting at a school alumni … Continue reading Verbal Abuse: When There Are No Visible Scars
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Interesting Conversations Christian Couples Should Have Before Engagement
April 19, 2022
When I was growing up, “lists” were a must in Christian circles, and every serious believer looking to date and marry, had one. Even when we learnt how to leave out the less important things and focus on the major issues, we still ended up with lists that were quite robust. While everyone does need … Continue reading Interesting Conversations Christian Couples Should Have Before Engagement
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Should You Compare Your Marriage?
April 19, 2022
If there’s anything I know to be true, it’s this: comparing your marriage to someone else’s is foolish. I remember one day 10 years ago when I saw a couple I knew looking and acting sweet as usual, in their matching t-shirts and sneakers, and whispered a prayer to God about wanting my future marriage … Continue reading Should You Compare Your Marriage?
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Why Do Some Women Marry Without Physical Attraction?
April 19, 2022
Once upon a time, I couldn’t understand this at all. If you’re going into a marriage – a union where your spouse is naturally looking forward to an active, fulfilling AND exclusive sex life – does it not make sense to marry someone you’re physically attracted to? And even if you are willing to live … Continue reading Why Do Some Women Marry Without Physical Attraction?
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Is Your Togetherness Too Total?
April 19, 2022
Does a happy marriage mean being inseparable? Elizabeth Taylor, who married Richard Burton in 1964, divorced him 10 years later, and married him again in 1975 before they divorced for good less than a year later, once described their marriage as “being in each other’s pockets.” That a couple seems to be perpetually joined at … Continue reading Is Your Togetherness Too Total?
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7 Things Great Wives Do Differently
April 19, 2022
We’re all still basking in the euphoria of the love, friendship and honour we witnessed between Barack and Michelle Obama as they spent their final days in office, and there was much “goals-ing” all over social media. Many have also wondered, secretly if not openly, what wives who live happy, fulfilled lives even as they … Continue reading 7 Things Great Wives Do Differently
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5 Things Couples Can Do For Their Finances This Year
April 19, 2022
“Please how are you guys coping?” has been a common question amongst close friends since Nigeria went into recession. While a lot has been said about why money causes so much friction in marriage, embracing frugality, and fixing your finances in 2017, couples can achieve more working as a team. Here are 5 moves that … Continue reading 5 Things Couples Can Do For Their Finances This Year
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What Do People Mean When They Say Marriage is Work?
April 19, 2022
It has come to my notice that single people who intend to get married have been hearing “marriage is work” for ages and yet they’re not exactly sure what the “work” is. And they’re sick of it. At first I was surprised because I assumed the “work” in marriage was common knowledge, and also because … Continue reading What Do People Mean When They Say Marriage is Work?
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One Much Overlooked Ingredient Every Marriage Needs
April 19, 2022
For a long time, whenever I thought about how much my husband and I used to play together, it was usually along the lines of lamenting that we didn’t play anymore. Then, late last year, I decided we were better off actually doing something about it. First step, find the Ludo board and clean it. … Continue reading One Much Overlooked Ingredient Every Marriage Needs
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One Simple Tip for an Incredibly Fulfilling Marriage in 2017
April 19, 2022
I recently learnt that a great marriage is really not possible for lazy people. As someone who identifies as “lazy”, this understandably gave me cause for concern. As 2016 came to an end and I started laying out my goals for 2017, I wondered how I would find the energy required to move my marriage … Continue reading One Simple Tip for an Incredibly Fulfilling Marriage in 2017
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Why I’m Learning to Speak The Language of Quality Time
April 19, 2022
I never knew that loving my husband would be so expensive. I wish gifts would do the job, so I could just buy them, big and small. I wish physical touch could mean much to him, so I could give him more hugs and kisses and caresses than he’d know what to do with. I … Continue reading Why I’m Learning to Speak The Language of Quality Time
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Will You Wait Till The Water Runs Dry?
April 19, 2022
“We don’t even talk anymore…” So begins one of my favourite Boys II Men songs, ‘Water Runs Dry’. When a marriage is headed downhill, talking is usually the next to die after kissing. You just don’t do it anymore. Talking is the major thing we do when we first start getting to know each other. … Continue reading Will You Wait Till The Water Runs Dry?
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What You Should Remember When Pressured to Just Marry
April 19, 2022
I recently had reason to be ashamed of myself. Very ashamed, in fact. You know that place as a single woman where everyone is wondering why you’re smart and pretty and hardworking and altogether lovely, and yet you’re not married. There’s pressure from within and without. From your mum and her sisters, to your pastor … Continue reading What You Should Remember When Pressured to Just Marry
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Must a Woman Take Her Husband’s Surname?
April 19, 2022
Reading Hillary Clinton’s biography, A Woman in Charge by Carl Bernstein, I was astounded by the fuss Americans made over Hillary’s decision to keep using her maiden name, instead of taking on her husband’s surname. Her remaining Hillary Rodham not only caused her mother-in-law great distress, it actually affected her husband during his gubernatorial campaign. … Continue reading Must a Woman Take Her Husband’s Surname?
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5 Tips for Getting Along With Your New In-Laws
April 19, 2022
Settling into married life is hard, not only because you and your husband are just getting used to living and building a life together, but also because you married his family when you married him. Here are 5 tips that can make your transition easier: 1. Be genuinely interested in getting to know your in-laws. … Continue reading 5 Tips for Getting Along With Your New In-Laws
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