5 Mistakes to Avoid After a Breakup
Breakups can be awful. I remember thinking sometime last year that it was good to be married and finally free from the trauma and torture that is breaking up after dating someone you truly love (a divorce is a different animal) and thought you would share forever with. You meet someone, you’re sure he or […]
10 Money Lessons for Friends and Lovers
“Money separates friends,” is a phrase I heard quite often growing up, and along with the quote, “Neither a borrower nor a lender be.” They formed my money philosophy as a teen. I witnessed enough “friendships” go sour because someone borrowed and didn’t pay back, to know that there was truth to the saying. So […]
8 Communication Tips for Relationships You Cherish
Most of us are already tired of hearing how communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. We get it already! How does the communication thing work? Should we just keep on chattering away? What exactly do we say? That’s what we want to know. Whether you’re looking to revive a romantic relationship, sustain a long […]
7 Things That Can Happen When You Don’t Like Your Friend’s Man
Eleven years ago, when I was a corps member, I made a number of bosom friends who are still in my life today. They bring me such joy, comfort and inspiration, I just know we didn’t meet by accident. Maintaining those friendships after service year has enhanced our lives in many ways. It so happens […]
7 Harmful Habits Your Relationship Doesn’t Need
Whether you’re dating, engaged or married, there are certain behaviours and habits that are counterproductive to a healthy relationship. Men and women who know the value of a mutually fulfilling and satisfying relationship are careful to avoid practices that threaten their love, and they take deliberate steps to break those habits where they have already […]
Four Amazing Spots You Can Visit on Valentine’s Day
Do we need to explain how important this day is to some people? This list should help you figure out where to visit on Valentine’s Day. 1. The spa. We love being pampered and a trip to the spa is always welcome no matter the occasion. It allows you both to the luxury of relaxing, getting […]
Valentine Fever
It is climbing to a steady pitch, the days are counting and rather fast I must say. I’m back to the age-long question I always ask, “Why celebrate love on a special day alone?” If I must love you for some reason and that I still have you in my space, then I must love […]
5 Tips for Keeping Your Long Distance Friendship Alive
A lot has been said and written about coping with distance in romantic relationships, but lovers are not the only ones affected. When bosom friends you’re used to having nearby move far away, it can be painful, and also challenging. My best friend who lived 5 minutes away recently moved to the other side of […]
What Do People Mean When They Say Marriage is Work?
It has come to my notice that single people who intend to get married have been hearing “marriage is work” for ages and yet they’re not exactly sure what the “work” is. And they’re sick of it. At first I was surprised because I assumed the “work” in marriage was common knowledge, and also because […]
One Much Overlooked Ingredient Every Marriage Needs
For a long time, whenever I thought about how much my husband and I used to play together, it was usually along the lines of lamenting that we didn’t play anymore. Then, late last year, I decided we were better off actually doing something about it. First step, find the Ludo board and clean it. […]
Are You a Diplomat in Your Home?
Many of us erroneously believe that if someone truly loves us we should be able to talk to and treat them without as much carefulness and tact as we employ with others, but this simply isn’t true. The fact that the home is a “safe place” doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take others’ feelings into consideration. […]
The One Thing I Never Paid Attention To About Love Languages
As a student of linguistics, dialectology was one of my favourite aspects to study. The differences between dialects of a language fascinated me to no end, as did paying attention to the points where a dialect would be considered a language on its own. I particularly loved cornering Igbo people and asking them about “l” […]
Why I’m Learning to Speak The Language of Quality Time
I never knew that loving my husband would be so expensive. I wish gifts would do the job, so I could just buy them, big and small. I wish physical touch could mean much to him, so I could give him more hugs and kisses and caresses than he’d know what to do with. I […]
Will You Wait Till The Water Runs Dry?
“We don’t even talk anymore…” So begins one of my favourite Boys II Men songs, ‘Water Runs Dry’. When a marriage is headed downhill, talking is usually the next to die after kissing. You just don’t do it anymore. Talking is the major thing we do when we first start getting to know each other. […]
What You Should Remember When Pressured to Just Marry
I recently had reason to be ashamed of myself. Very ashamed, in fact. You know that place as a single woman where everyone is wondering why you’re smart and pretty and hardworking and altogether lovely, and yet you’re not married. There’s pressure from within and without. From your mum and her sisters, to your pastor […]
Can You Make Someone Love You?
When Chuks met Isio, he knew he wanted to marry her. Both Christians in their 30s, they had been talking online for a while, and although they enjoyed the conversations, they both wondered what meeting face to face would be like, and they looked forward to his return to Nigeria so they could find out. […]