Living in Lagos can be exciting, but let’s face it — it can also feel lonely. With everyone rushing to work, battling traffic, and trying to survive the daily hustle, it’s easy to lose touch with people. But as human beings, we all need relationships to grow and thrive. Whether you’re new in town or have lived in Lagos your whole life, finding and keeping real “social connections” is something you can do — even in a fast-paced city like this.
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Here are some simple, real-life ways to foster social connections in Lagos, without stressing yourself or changing your whole lifestyle.
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Start With Your Neighbourhood
You don’t have to travel far to make friends. Start by greeting your neighbours. Say good morning. Ask how their day went. If there’s a compound WhatsApp group, join it. Many lasting friendships start with a simple smile or short gist while fetching water or locking the gate.
In Lagos, many people mind their business, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want to connect. Sometimes, they’re just waiting for someone to break the ice. Be that person.
Try this: Next time PHCN brings light, say, “Up NEPA!” loudly and see who responds with a laugh. That moment of shared joy can spark something.
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Use Your Commute Time Wisely
Traffic is a big part of Lagos life. Instead of being angry and scrolling on your phone, why not strike up a conversation with someone on the bus or a danfo? Yes, not everyone will respond, but many will.
You can start with a light comment like, “Lagos traffic no dey disappoint o,” or “I like your bag, where did you get it?” These small talks can lead to deeper conversations.
You never know — your next business partner or close friend might be sitting right beside you on the Third Mainland Bridge!
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Attend Local Events and Hangouts
Lagos is full of events: book readings, art shows, food festivals, fitness groups, and even Sunday markets. These places are perfect for meeting people who share your interests.
Even if you’re shy, try attending one or two events a month. Go with the mindset of “I want to meet just one person today.” That’s all. No pressure.
Search for events on Instagram, X, or websites like Eventbrite. You’ll be surprised how many Lagosians are also looking to build social connections.
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Join a Faith Group or Community Group
Many Lagosians find comfort and friendship through churches, mosques, or community support groups. These spaces are naturally built for people to connect, share their struggles, and grow together.
You don’t have to be a pastor or an imam to join a group. Just be open and show up. Attend midweek programs, join small units like choir, ushering, or women’s fellowship. These places are filled with people who want to connect, just like you.
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Don’t Underestimate Online Communities
Even in a city as physical and noisy as Lagos, the internet can be a beautiful place to connect. Join a Telegram group about movies. Follow an X space that discusses Lagos living. Create a TikTok video about surviving Lagos heat and see who relates.
From Instagram to Facebook groups, there are people in Lagos forming deep social connections online. Just remember to always meet new online friends in safe public places first.
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Volunteer or Give Back
One of the best ways to find meaningful connections is by giving your time. Volunteer to teach kids, clean your street, help at a blood drive, or support a local NGO.
Lagos has many non-profits doing amazing work. When you volunteer, you meet people who care about the same things you do. And you don’t just feel good — you also feel connected.
Try this: Look up groups like Slum2School, Lagos Food Bank, or She Writes Woman. They always need helping hands.
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Be Intentional and Consistent
Making social connections is not just about meeting people; it’s about keeping the relationship alive. Follow up. Send a message after meeting someone. Celebrate small things like birthdays or job wins. Call someone just to say hi.
You don’t need to have a thousand friends. Even two or three good ones are enough. But you have to be intentional. Lagos can swallow up your time, but relationships need watering, just like plants.
Final Thoughts
Lagos is fast, loud, and full of drama. But in the middle of the noise, there are people like you, craving real friendships and social connections that matter.
You don’t have to attend every party or become a social butterfly. Just take small steps — greet a neighbour, show up at that meet-up, send that message. The city may be busy, but your heart doesn’t have to be lonely. Build your tribe, one connection at a time. What step will you take today to build a social connection?
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