The first determinant of many things in life is one’s ability to be likeable. Research by Dr James Larsen has shown that people who others view as well-liked are more likely to have loyal customers, employees, friends and relationships. To get into any sort of
relationship, you have to be likeable to the point of leaving a good taste in the mind.
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Currently, many people struggle to get into close circles of
intimate relationships because they have lost the art and science of being likeable. Some have even lost jobs not because they were not qualified but because another candidate was better liked than they. How then do you tip the scales of likeability to your favour? This article would show you how to be likeable and as a result, make your relationship with people richer.
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Be Authentic
Be the real you, nothing less, nothing more. This is because it is hard to sustain a lie especially when that lie is to impress people. One day, you might flop and the real you would show. When this happens, people would hate you for breaking their trust. How to be the real you is simple, as much as you are trying to be a better person, make sure that you do things that are true to your central value and cure character.
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Be Confident
People love confidence. When you have found a central value that all your actions stem from. Ensure that you are confident about your stand. Not blunt, but confident.
Not just about the things you believe but also about the people you love and the things you enjoy. This helps people see that they can trust your words.
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Put People First
This quality cannot be overemphasised. People know when you are only using them to achieve a goal. They know when they are no longer a priority.
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You have to learn to put the best interest of the team before your own. This would help them trust the decisions you make. When people trust the decisions you make, they are bound to like you better.
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Give Gifts
Not bribes, but gifts. Not just any gifts, but thoughtful gifts. People do not need the whole world to be happy, but that little key holder or bookmarker may be all they need to have a happier day. The idea of giving is to crystalise the fact that you think they matter. People say things every day but action proves it.
Gifts do not just brighten people’s day. It opens doors for the giver and their act of kindness remains stamped on the heart of the recipient. Be a gift that keeps on giving.
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Live Life
It is your life, live it. You cannot spend all your life trying to please people. You have to learn to live and enjoy life. We have only 2 lives and the moment you realise it, you are left with only one.
The true key to being Likeable is to be truly you. To enjoy your journey and to live life. People notice when you enjoy your own space. By default, they begin to gravitate towards your space. What this means is that, for you to be Likeable, you must learn to love yourself. Stay safe, stay true to yourself!
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