Coaching is now the 2nd fastest growing industry in the world. The estimated market size of the Coaching Industry was $15 billion in 2019 with a total of $7.5 billion worth of market value in the US alone. The major reason why coaching is growing so fast is simply that more people are beginning to identify with the potency of the discipline.
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Coaching certifications are expensive globally, for example, if you want to run a certification in Nigeria with Pause Factory, a leading coaching certifying company who infuses
Emotional Intelligence into her
Coaching program, you will spend about 350,000 Naira, that is not very affordable for a lot of people to pay; would that mean you should not develop this powerful life-transforming skill, the answer is no. If you read on, I will be sharing a powerful coaching skill with you that you can start using today and begin to get results.
The work of a coach is to partner with someone in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. This means when you are to coach someone, you will simply be relating and communicating with them in a way that helps them maximize their potential.
You can start doing this as a father, mother, head of a department, manager, pastor, uncle, aunty etc. and help the people around you maximize their potential. Why is this important? Very Simple, several people have been broken by life, their esteem has been beaten, some don’t believe in themselves, others have tried but they don’t seem to know what is holding them from achieving their goals, at such times, they need a coach or someone who has coaching skills to help them unlock their stuck state and empower them to go ahead and thrive.
Here is one key competence you must master as a non-certified coach who wants to enjoy the benefits of utilizing coaching.
This competence is for you to ASK more than you TELL.
While this sounds like a simple activity, I must tell you that it is not so simple for a lot of people. It takes learning and practising because we are naturally tellers, we give instruction constantly, we correct people continuously, and we rebuke people every now and then.
It is natural for us to “tell” as compared to “ask”. Rather than telling someone that they are wrong, can you try asking them a question? For example, when your subordinate does something wrong and you want to correct the person, it is natural to start telling the person what the person did wrong, why the person was wrong, and all the person did not do right, and then go ahead to tell the person what to do and how to do it.
What if you take the approach of “asking”, after telling the person that the work was not well done, ask questions like:
What do you think you could have done better?
What are three other ways you could have done this?
What two things will you try within the next week to become better at this?
It works like magic. When you put the person in a comfortable situation and ask questions, you will be amazed at the type of answers the person will generate. When you ask questions, you allow the person’s creativity to find expression, the person’s brain will get into work, but when you tell the person all the answers, you deny the person the opportunity to think, to stretch, analyze and create.
One of our
Emotional Intelligence Certified Professional noticed that her son usually does not greet teachers at the school gate when she is dropping him off at school, and she would usually scold his son for not greeting when she learnt about the power of questioning, she decided to try it, so rather than scold her son, she decided to ask him “why do you not greet the teachers at the gate? her son answered that he does not know their names and that he was taught to always mention the name of the teacher when he is greeting them e.g. Good Morning Mrs Grace. That was a light bulb moment for her, she was shocked, she had thought all the while that he was being stubborn; before that day, all she did was tell, and it led to scolding because her son was confused. Just a question and there was an enlightening moment for everyone.
While you are not a certified coach, this is one competence of coaching you can use to help yourself and other people learn and move further towards their potential.
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This article was first published on 11th February 2021 and updated on February 22nd, 2021 at 2:37 pm
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