Refuse Their Labels
So many times, people want to put us in a box by describing us with something limiting that they are comfortable with. It’s what bullies do …and other people with self-esteem issues too. Now these people may even be your loved ones – a husband, your parents or siblings. They pick on you and call […]
The Problem Men Put Their Wives Through and How to Avoid It
In today’s Nigeria, I find that many more women are becoming the breadwinners in their homes as the years go by. And while this shouldn’t alarm you much with the rise of women empowerment programs, what I find alarming is that this women are being made to shoulder more financial responsibility at home in […]
Motivational Monday: Commit
If you are going to succeed in the New Year, you are going to have to learn to commit; doing everything that is required to achieve your objectives. You are nobody without commitment. The difference between the rich and the poor, the successful and the unsuccessful, the producers and the consumers, is their results. The […]
Tip of the Day: Currency, Not Money
When people talk about people who ‘have’ money, I often try to understand their context before applying myself to the discussion. Frankly, there’s right now little to no money in the banks of the world. They only hold currencies. True money in today’s world has a slight variation from the dollars, pounds and yen of […]
Tip of the Day: Why You Should Get Rid of Debt
Your income and assets will change from time to time. But debt – those repayments you have to make – those are constant. So in a time of economic stress when job cuts are inevitable, you stand a big risk of losing big time. The world is in trouble right now, and it is hinged […]
For Married Men Only
Respect. Men, to gain the respect of your wives, you’ve got to give it first. Frankly, your wife’s point of view matters, otherwise you shouldn’t even be married. If you are going to enjoy being married – or at least, stay married – your critical success factor will be something I have coined, The Feeling […]
Allow Yourself to Be Successful
If you have failed in life, you aren’t the only one. We all have. But you cannot be like most people who allow the excuses of trying and failing once be their excuse that their lives aren’t worth more. Friend, excuses are the way to nothing. So you cannot give up on yourself. The direction of […]
Motivational Monday: Face Your Fears
Forget it. You are never going to live a fear-free life. It’s a part of our existence. All of us get scared sometimes; the fear that we aren’t good enough; the fear that our ideas aren’t great enough; the fear that the people we want to ask for a favour, a relationship or seed capital […]
Seriously, Many People Aren’t Well
In Nigeria, mental health is something nobody is really looking at. You see a lot of personality disorder problems on the road when driving particularly in traffic. You find that some people are so detached from reality behind their steering wheels, that they wouldn’t even stop to let school children cross the road even if […]
Tip of the Day: How to Stay Happy in Your Marriage
If you are going to stay married to your partner, you are going to learn to find common ground and build from there. You are going to have to talk; share and accommodate each other’s values. Otherwise, it’s not worth it at all. You can’t be conflict-avoidant and you can’t be co-dependent in a marriage […]
Poem: The Whittled
Nothing there was, wasn’t whittled Whether a skill or an ideal or life’s simple things Win or lose, you whittled that Sink or swim, you whittled that too Even God whittled man from the dust of the ground Then, whittled woman from the flesh He’d bound The whittler, not the talker, wins respect For only […]
Poem: As Powerful
We are as powerful as our greatest weakness permits And as beautiful as our deepest flaw We are capped by our lowest thoughts of ourselves Try to pinch yourself when you’re in a trough Our minds are the greatest assets They tell us what we can do So build up a richer, healthier mindset And […]
Thank God It’s Monday!
Most heart attacks occur on Monday morning. A certain anxiety of going back to work like a rain cloud suddenly hovers over so many people after lunch on Sunday, causing them to succumb to the sickness in their hearts the next day. The sickness being the disaffection you have towards your job that you haven’t […]
Curiosity: A Simple Thing That Can Change the Face of Our Economy
The recent rambling in the public space about how the CBN’s policies are stifling SMEs is a testament to how the lack of curiosity may be depriving Nigerians – and maybe the black race – of real progress. A popular thought is, if you want to keep anything a secret from black people, put it […]
How to Save Our Capital Market Investment
“Tell me nobody has seen this” were the words that entered my mind as I judiciously looked at the stock market report for the umpteenth time last Friday—as I always do every day of every year for the past seventeen years. My light bulb moment was brought on by the phenomena we see every day […]
3 Powerful Lessons I Learnt From the Movie, Interstellar
Learning is a pastime for me. The joy of discovering something previously unknown to me helps me in ways I cannot begin to describe. But to put it in a nutshell, learning helps me fulfil purpose. It helps me help others close up their knowledge gaps because with what I learn, I teach. Last week, […]