Children are gifts from God. Having such a gift in the hands of a mother is the most unexplainable feeling on earth. To a father, it is such a joy to see and carry close to himself the life he has produced. They both watch with amazement, borderline marvel, as the baby rapidly grows through the weeks that turn to months and years and they wonder, “How did he/she manage to grow up this fast?” It amazes even the best of parents, but before the experience of giving value to your child during his/her early stages gets lost, there are at least 20 things you need to do for your child to grow up to become a person of value.
1. A child will only imitate what you do. They will most often not do what you say, so be that wonderful father/mother worthy of imitation.
2. Love them unselfishly. Love them all equally.
3. Being around children can give you new perspectives about life and living.
4. There are treasures hidden in the souls of children waiting to be unlocked. The very fact that you have been given the gift of a child should be motivation enough for every parent to work to ensure these treasures are unlocked and untainted.
5. Children look up to their parents. If you declare great things about them and their future, they will turn out to be so. If you say the negatives about them, they will turn out to be so. They become what you believe of them.
6. See through the eyes of a child and you have seen the world in innocence, in purity, in unity, in truth and in love.
7. If there is one thing you will promise yourself as a parent, let it be this – that your children will live better than you did when you were a child. Give them a life devoid of fear and violence.
8. Are you looking for real fun? Look for where children play. See the excitement and joy in their faces. That’s real fun right there. Let your child always have that.
9. Hug that child! Hug them every day! Hug them until they scream that you leave them alone. Don’t stop! Hug them and kiss them ceaselessly.
10. No child is a mistake. Every child that opens his/her eyes into the world is here on a divine purpose. Help them discover their purpose. Don’t lock them into your own purpose. Guide them on the way of finding theirs.
11. Give a child the necessary tools to succeed, the enabling environment and positive high achievers to guide him/her along the way and they will succeed beyond your wildest dreams.
12. Read bed time stories to your children. Let it be a family affair. Read them fairy tales stories. Let their imaginations travel to distant worlds before they close their eyes to sleep each night.
13. Teach your children HOW to think more than you teach them what to think.
14. You have to accept that these three things may happen as your child grows up. They will begin by
loving you unconditionally then they will start to
judge you sometimes harshly and some may
forgive you.
15. After you have laid the basic foundation of value in a child, the best thing you can do for them is to allow them do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms. Through this, they will grow up believing more in themselves and they will utilize what you have taught them in real life situations. After you have given them roots, give them wings to fly.
16. Get prepared to answer questions even a wise man would struggle to find an answer to.
17. Listen to your child. Sometimes you don’t need too talk much. Just by listening to them, you will discover that they explain themselves quite well to the extent that what they don’t understand at the start of conversation, they eventually get it.
18. Children find everything in nothing. Let them.
19. Let your parenting be done with a sense of humour.
20. Never turn your back on them except if they’re hopping on your back.
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This article was first published on 19th June 2014
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