Archives Tag: Joy Ehonwa
Friends With The Ex
April 19, 2022
“I’m friends with all my exes.” It was impossible to miss the obvious pride with which the beautiful stranger said those words. Watching her though, I could detect something else, an air of superiority that suggested a deficiency in those who were unwilling or unable to remain friends with their exes. It got me wondering, … Continue reading Friends With The Ex
By jehonwa
Men I’ve Loved Before: Demystifying “The One”
April 19, 2022
I was recently reminded of the concept of “The One” when I found an old, long-forgotten list I had titled “Things I Worry About When I Think of My Upcoming Nuptials”. Right there, at Number 6, I’d written: “I’ll never meet The One, ever. It’s over. This is it. Boo hoo hoo.”
By jehonwa
Marrying Later, Marrying Smarter
April 19, 2022
I always wanted to get married at 22. To this day I’m not sure exactly why, but the idea of being a beautiful young bride – and getting childbearing out of the way early – greatly appealed to me. Now, of course, I’m grateful I didn’t marry at 22, but I also find myself wondering what kind of wife I would have made at that age.
When Love Ends: Stages, Songs and Lyrics on Breaking Up
April 19, 2022
Music may be the food of love, but when it comes to breakups, there is no better diet to heal the heart or worsen its condition than huge servings of moving lyrics. However, between a breakup and the healing, people experience different phases and lyrics often mirror these.
By jehonwa
On Love and Money
April 19, 2022
“No romance without finance”. This phrase used to fly around during my University days – in Christian circles, no less. Of course it meant that love could not be expressed without money and, being the naive little romantic that I was, this was blasphemy.
Letter to My Friend, the Bride
April 19, 2022
Girlfriend, I’m so thrilled that you’re getting married, and I absolutely must share with you some things I knew before I got married, and a few others things I wish someone had told me before I got married.
Until Your Nest is Built
April 19, 2022
It’s been over 5 years since I “passed out” from the NYSC programme, but I still remember it, and the months following, just like yesterday. Like many young graduates, the search for my dream job took me far from my parents, and with each new job came a new place of abode and sometimes a new city altogether.
Love…Or Something Like It
April 19, 2022
English is a handicapped language, and nowhere is this more obvious than when it comes to the word “love”. People value relationships with people for different reasons. Like sex, for example. Some may think “it’s just sex”, but it is an extremely powerful thing that binds people together at least for a while.
There Goes the Bride
April 19, 2022
A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. I’ve heard those words for as long as I can remember, and it never once crossed my mind that they would have anything to do with me; definitely not when I first set eyes on your handsome face.
By jehonwa
English, Please
April 19, 2022
By Joy Ehonwa. Hallo! Wie geht? Some of you speak German and understood exactly what I said, some had the vague idea that I was saying “hi”, sort of, and others were just blank. When I was studying for my degree in Linguistics, one of the things that struck me over and over was the … Continue reading English, Please
What’s Love Got To Do With It?
April 19, 2022
By Joy Ehonwa I’ve always thought about marriage a lot. Not about getting married or having a wedding, but about this thing called marriage. I wondered how it worked, and if it really was the way it had been presented to us. A few days ago I was at the salon and a really sour-faced … Continue reading What’s Love Got To Do With It?
By loyigah
Living Smarter, Loving Smarter
April 19, 2022
How many times have we been so comfortable in our work, our friendships, our romances that we hardly ever put in any effort to make them better? We are so certain that that we have them where we want them, that nothing could ever go wrong, that we’re geniuses at what we do, and that things will stay the way they are. We must remember that even the most perfect of relationships need a little helping along every now and then.
