Growing up as a child, one answer we were not expected to give was
‘I don’t know’. Our childhood had no room for vulnerability. In case, you disagree because you had it easy, let me remind you of that child that sat in the corner of the classroom, and never understood a thing but couldn’t speak up. What was your reaction to him? You possibly termed him an
“olodo” right. So, the term “vulnerability” was definitely a weakness. Vulnerability is the state of being exposed to criticisms and attacks; no one wants to put themselves in such a situation where they are exposed to attacks, whether physically or emotionally.
Over the past few weeks, I became interested in the word “confident vulnerability”: The confidence to admit you made a mistake; step out among your peers, colleague and make a decision, even when you are not sure if it is the right decision; lead others when you don’t know the route.
To pair vulnerability, a word we don’t like, with confidence, a word we love, in a person, is to have a great leader.
Here are ways to be Confidently Vulnerable:
Teach Someone Something you are Still Learning: One way to build your confidence level is to teach someone that skill you are still being taught. You learn and discover things when you instruct people on things you do not have full confidence at.
Acknowledge Weakness: Acknowledging your weaknesses is not wrong. When you are wrong, admit and ask for corrections. This shows that you are confident in being vulnerable, instead of hiding your mistakes.
Apologize for Something You Forgot To Do and For Something You Did: Being truthful enhances vulnerability. It is said that it pays to be honest; try to apologize for any wrongdoings or for things you ought to do. It increases your credibility and builds your confidence and others’ confidence level in you. People would vouch for you when you do this and is there any better way of being a great leader.
Confess to Not Knowing Everything: No man is born with the knowledge of all things. Admitting to a knowledge you do not have is not a crime. Your response should show that you are willing to learn. It’s best you learn from everyone you meet- young and old- that way you grow.
Share a Personal Experience When You Failed: Remember how our parents were never failures but all had the success story of being best students when younger and the dismay looks we had when we discover their lies, years later. While it is amazing to be placed on a very high pedestal, it is alright to admit to instances in your life where you had experienced failures. Of course not to all and sundry, but who knows, sharing your personal experience might be helpful to the person next to you. Also, you might get the assistance you need for an accelerated growth in that skill you failed in.
