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Have you ever met a guy who was with someone else and thought: “Damn! You should be mine!”
I’m not talking about celebrities in the overseas, I’m talking about the regular guys you meet out here or the celebrities out here who are just too good to be true (although sometimes they are too good to be true) and you realize they actually check out about 95% on the list you have. Now let me make it more painful, imagine if your friend had that man or he is your friend’s ex… now this becomes a no go area (as a good friend).
I remember sometime ago when I went to a pizza place called McQueens (I believe, if not correct me) on Allen. I was there waiting for my order to get ready and I met this guy. He was a good looking dude and we bonded over the time wasted on both our pizzas. We chatted for about an hour and even exchanged numbers. He thought I was funny and I just thought he was so darn cute with intelligence to go with it. We started talking every day. He would come over to see me, we’d go out and all. We were having a great time together.
I had told my friend about him and she was excited because before we were friends, she had dated a guy with the same name. I gave her the phone to talk to him and it didn’t take ten seconds they were all “oh my God”, “I can’t believe it’s you talking to Dami” and the likes.
He then told me how they had broken up about five months ago. Even she started the whole “wow, so you are going to date him” series. All I thought was I have known you (the girl) for like three months and I love you but he’s a great guy to me. He asked me if she told me to leave him and I said no but then as a friend I had to ask her the question: “are you alright with me and him?”
You wouldn’t believe it. She said no! She said it will hurt her knowing I was with him because he broke it off with her and she isn’t over him. I asked her what happened and she told me he had broken up with her because he said he was tired and needed something new. That hurt. I asked him why he called it off but he said he didn’t feel like talking about it.
About a week later he told me we should make it official and then I had a tough time. I was stuttering and thinking of what to say. Should I or should I not. This was a choice between a friend and a potential boyfriend. There are so many fishes in the ocean but the truth is there are many friends in the ocean too but I felt too bad. This was her last boyfriend and whether she was at fault or not they had sort of recently broken up. If he could tell me why maybe it may make the decision easier.
When I asked him he refused to tell me still. Then he said tell me your answer and I’ll tell you what happened. After a few days of thinking about it I picked my friend. I told him no. He then told me she had cheated on him with someone he knew. I asked her and she said it was true. At this point I wanted to be mad at her for letting me let go of such a great guy for a friendship that as of right now is no more but at that point in time she was more like a sister to me and she made a mistake.
They guy and I became good friends and he left the country and I haven’t heard from him since then. I realized that if he was meant to be mine, he would have. And if he still meant to be mine, someone you know would read this and show him and he’ll want to get in touch with me and my number is 080… just kidding but it could happen!
Maybe I should find another pizza spot… who knows it might become the real deal next time (Na Wash!).
My friend had recently been with the man I wanted to be with at that time and I have met more like that. Some of them even married.
I know there are a lot of you that have met someone who is married or with someone else and you wish he was your husband. You look at the girl and in your mind you tell her “you are so lucky to have such a man” but you guys should also realize that you meet people at face value. Not everyone is as open as me (self wash).
Ladies just look away from someone else’s man because truth be told, with patience and God you will find that man for sure.
