Every football fan looks forward to Transfer Deadline Day as varied teams make last-ditch efforts to save their season. European clubs scamper to get certain deals over the line before midnight of September 1/February 1(dates are subject to change).
The Transfer Deadline Day gives one a practical insight into desperation. Fans/managers are desperate to see new players walk through the door at their respective clubs to help their title challenge or relegation battle as the case may be.
A few years ago, Nigerian striker Osaze Odemwingie made a much publicised desperate effort on Transfer Deadline Day. He drove down from the Midlands to London (in the UK) to force a move from West Bromwich Albion (WBA) to Queens Park Rangers (QPR) in the English Premier League. Unfortunately for him, both clubs hadn’t shook hands on the deal; he was stopped from going into QPR office and had to return to his parent club much to his dismay to face the wrath of the fans.
This season, we saw Manchester United break the transfer record for a teenager as they coughed out £36m (which could rise to €58m) for then 19-year-old Anthony Martial from AS Monaco. This may sound like a calculated risk to the management of Manchester United due to the huge potential of young Martial but the truth is that he was a panic buy, purchased to solve United’s striking problem – an act of desperation.
Desperation is marked by despair and a strong desire. It is unattractive to most people..maybe everyone. It is easy to decipher; it can be spotted from miles away. Once you appear desperate, you become an easy prey. Desperation often impairs one’s rational and critical thoughts hence affecting his/her judgement. No wonder the Irish describe ‘desperate’ as something very bad.
To be fair, it is hard for one not to be desperate in this clime after some period of anguish and despair. Our economy is in a worrisome state; corruption rules the day, unemployment is at all-time high and most of the employed ones are underemployed and underpaid. For example, you just married the love of your life and have a baby on the way but you have no job because you were sacked from your last job. You have bills to pay, responsibilities to meet but you don’t have money to pay or meet them. Let’s be honest, who wouldn’t get desperate after a while?
Also, just like job search, the quest for true love can often result in desperation. It is that time for you to settle down so you attend every wedding and register on every dating site till you give into desperation. Being too eager and needy can backfire and creep people out.
Desperation often leads to self-destruction. Desperate people rarely make good decisions. They lower their value in the eyes of others and tend to settle for anything. Desperation is never a good negotiating tactic. It makes one over-react and over-price a product or service just like Manchester United. It is okay to be desperate for a job/love/product/service – whatever it may be – but it is important to maintain your cool. You don’t have to act like you are.
Tottenham Hotspur supremo David Levy is known for his calm and collected approach to transfer negotiations. In the end, his counterparts become frustrated and buy his players at an inflated price.
On the contrary, desperation can also be a good thing – like a springboard to productivity. This may sound weird to many but believe it. Some people develop overnight courage and spring to action when they are desperate. After all, you know what they say “desperate times call for desperate measures.”
About 3,000 Syrian migrants have already died since last year in the Mediterranean as they try to escape the violence in Syria but that hasn’t stopped others from migrating to Europe. When you are desperate, you leave your comfort zone and embrace your last resort. Nothing matters to you other than this moment. You can’t second guess yourself when you have run out of options. This can give one a certain kind of power. It shows us who we really are; whether we are complacent or willing to go far. Hear Evan Esar, “Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, DESPERATION, perspiration, and inspiration.”
It is good to be full of zing but moderation is key. Once you act cool and collected, your confidence will rub off on people hence making you attractive. Desperation is like a dirt on the wall – cover it up with paint and it’s all good!
