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How to Handle the First Date ‘Palaver’

The search for “the one” can be unpredictable, messy and sometimes downright unpleasant. In our search for an almost perfect soulmate, we cannot help but go through this. I mean the dreadful stage of “what am I going to wear”, “how do I carry on a conversation”. You begin to fret when you think about the “what ifs” (what if he/she doesn’t just like me) and it goes on and on.

I used to dread the words “FIRST DATE”. Going on first dates sometimes can be exhausting. I have over the years overcome my first date fears though I still have a lot of friends who dread it like the plague but it’s something we can’t just escape in our search for “the one”.

Many of you would agree with me that first dates are like job interviews. You just have to prepare and bring your “A” game lest you flunk. I know so many people, mostly the female gender dread first dates like it’s the flu. Most people have opted for the single status because of first date palavers.

The interesting part is that it has become a lot easier with the advent of social media. You chat with people continuously and in some situations, you have your first date online but is it enough? I personally am not a fan of first dates but if you haven’t found your soulmate then it’s inevitable.

Truth be told, we go to this first dates with so many expectations. We try to fit in everything in one single date and we expect miracles (like a herald of singing angels or butterflies fluttering). I have always believed that dating like any other fine skill is a discipline, meant to be practised and perfected.

So I penned down some tips which I think might ease up the first date tension. These tips were brought about by my experiences and those of my friends and I really hope it helps.

Just remember this, in the world of dating we all are warriors competing on an often brutal battlefield. Sometimes on the dating battlefield, one warrior’s forfeit can be another’s victory. But there is one thing that keeps us even wounded warriors in the battle, HOPE. Hope that, there really is a perfect someone out there for everyone. Enjoy and have fun.

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