Within seconds of meeting someone for the first time, we form opinions about them, their level of education, sociability, status and so on. This instinctive assessment is based on what we feel or see about that person, rather than on their actual words. Sometimes, we even form opinions before the other person has had an opportunity to utter a single word! We may decide from their facial expressions, posture and physical gestures, if they are in a sociable mood, anxious or calm,easygoing, arrogant or would rather be left alone.
Most Body Language experts agree that at least 50-80 percent of all human communication is non-verbal. The notion of two people locking eyes across a crowded room and forming an immediate connection is actually scientifically corroborated, as the eyes are an essential component of all non verbal communication. We can tell for instance, if someone is receptive or has lost interest in what we are saying from their eye movements and expressions. An old English proverb, frequently attributed to Shakespeare, puts it this way “the eyes are the window to the soul.”
Remember that at the same time that we are analyzing others, they are also forming opinions about us; so the assessment is mutual. Becoming more consciously aware of the signs we give off, equips us to filter and refine some of the language we allow our bodies to speak! In our professional lives, especially, we would control what we intend to communicate or, at least, avoid communicating a negative or confusing message.
So, what are we saying without actually verbalizing it?
LETS LOOK AT A FEW BODY LANGUAGE SIGNALS:
Making eye contact while speaking says you’re confident and open – Avoiding eye contact implies that you may have something to hide.Standing and walking tall portrays you as confident – slouching depicts a lack of self confidence.
A firm handshake shows a self assured personality – a limp handshake says you are lacking authority.
Stopping what you’re doing to look at and listen to someone, demonstrates respect for them – barely glancing up from what you’re doing to acknowledge another person shows that you do not regard that person as highly as your present preoccupation!
Is your body language reinforcing your message and brand? If not, then change it to better communicate who you are to your audience!
Artelier Lifestyle Consultants is an Etiquette and Image Consultancy
