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Beauty is like a pair of shoes, If It’s your right size or it fits you perfectly, you stick with it, if it’s not, you ignore it.  There’s a a third option though, “The management technique”. Whether it suits you or not, you wear it like that, with the discomfort and pain it brings, hoping that someday you will adjust. This is exactly how various societies have defined beauty, and it all boils down to our skin, shape of body, shape of head and many other unnecessary requirements. The plump girl becomes ugly because she doesn’t look like the skinny girl, the skinny girl looks at the curvy girl and wishes she had more fat in certain areas, the short guy has inferiority complex because the girl he wants is a clear two inches taller than he is. Why do we find all these a prerequisite to be who we want to be and find someone who loves us the way we are? Not only has society deformed our perception of beauty, we have now been exposed to what the world terms beautiful on a daily basis by the idea of beauty that movie producers, adverts, and billboards display. The end result is the unconscious effect it has on us. Slowly, we begin to draw towards the ideas we have stuck in our head of what a beautiful person should be, how they should act, what they should wear, and how they should think, and when we don’t find all of this in a person, we automatically erase them from our minds as beautiful beings. How many beautiful souls have you lost because they did not meet the societal demands of  beauty?   Many have lost their lives attempting plastic surgeries in a bid to feel beautiful and  be accepted by their loves one or society as a whole, but how would you blame them? The more attractive people get the good jobs, the handsome men or women, the great cliques, the undivided attention, and other side bonuses attached to seeing a beautiful face,  which becomes unfair to others who do not have these natural “privileges”. More money is spent on beauty contests than academic competitions and this has not only raised a standard for the young ones to see, it has also influenced them to look better, than act better. This is not supposed to be so. Everyone has a unique feature which distinguishes them from others and this was intentionally done by God to differentiate you, this is your special mark of beauty, so find it and work on it.   It’s amazing how happier we are when we find ourselves doing the things we love and being with those who appreciate our existence. So, learn to surround yourselves with the right kind of company, those who have no intention of fueling a low self-esteem in you, do things that make you happy and see yourself as the royal priesthood that you are.   So whether you’re plump or thin, short or tall, fair or dark, embrace yourself.  Don’t neglect your kind of beauty for another.  Drop the management technique and carry yourself with all shades of strength, because therein lies your true beauty.

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This article was first published on 14th January 2019


Achem Deborah Ojochenemi, is 22 years old. She is in her final year at the University of Ilorin, studying Eng and literary studies. She has undergone training in various fields such as neuroscience, photography, communication and writing, where she has learnt to curate good content topics. She is presently an intern in Phursuns Photography Academy.

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